The naturalist and the tree.

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There stands tall, a massive and brilliant tree, leafs that glisten, branches that are tested,tired and hysterically shaped. With vigorous and thick roots that span evenly through the earth underneath it. 

Among a forest of trees, that have had to endure to ensure adequate evolution, this tree was growing rapidly. A rapid pace that astonished even the most abstracted of those who pass by. 

Amazed by the growing process of this one tree, a relentless naturalist began to take notes.

Notation:

Through every extensive wind storm the tree extended its branches to help shelter those whose branches were fragile. 

With every gathering season, the tree produces a shake from its core so strong it moves the trees around as well. Together they provide the needy with an abundant amount of bounty.

In the most surreal heat the tree expands its branches  and provides shade for anyone seeking it. 

The tree is home to plenty, a rest stop and backbone for many. 

The tree never complains, periodically it silently whispers and the whispers fall upon our skin as gentle breezes reminding us of its existence.  It is not harsh nor cold. 

With all the time that had passed the naturalist formed his conclusion. In doing so he wrote  letter to the tree, which simply stated. 

Dear Mighty,

Thank you for reminding me of so much that I have forgotten. 

I’m blessed with a healthy body at the disposal of those who need it.

The fruits of my labour are a blessing given to me, blessing that only hold value when shared with others. 

Everyone is on their own journey, my blessings no matter how big or small, can help anyone along any route.

Thank you for reminding me that its more than okay to ask for help, but to not complain for it could always be worse. Finally  Mighty, thank you for reminding me that the strength that comes from within can change the world around me and help me to evolve into the greatest of my hearts desires. 

Its always important to take a minute and evaluate your surroundings. Sometimes its the things around you whether people or object that give value to the terms life and living.

Get Real, Be Real, Stay Real.

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We often get so caught up on calling people out for not being “real” we lose sight of our own truths.

In trying to please the world and then some, I lost my truth.It came to a point where I had to get in check and back on track with my jounrey of honesty.You come to a point in your life, or at least I’d hope to God you’d come to a point, where you stop pointing the finger at others and start to focus on your own “realisms” .The notion of honesty is the best policy, is by far the greatest theory i’ve explored. You see, honesty,the most noble of traits is by far the hardest to acquire. So I’ve come up with a sure fire way that can ensure you’re on the right path.

Get Real-

  1. Take a look around you, if there is a person and or thing that you have to make excuses for having, get fucking rid of it. Making excuses takes away from your truth
  2. Write down exactly what you want from the people in your life, Ya,you can have expectations, expectations are standards…JUST USE EM PROPERLY. I know everyone is always saying “expectations get you hurt” Wrong, not following through with your expectations is what gets you hurt.  Having them is being real with you! and being real with you is all that should matter. If people don’t make the cut, its ok life goes on for you both and you will find that you’ve now made space for someone who falls within your expectations.
  3. Get to know you, take a moment to realize what makes you smile, and not a smirk but a genuine soul smile (insert my smiling face here). Find out what hurts you not who hurts you. People are people you have no control over that, but look to what people do that upsets you, you can avoid those situations.
  4. Take a look at the moment you are in right now, remind yourself what it took to get you here. Remind yourself of where you want to be. Remind yourself that you and only you will get you there and finally remind yourself to be real to you.
  5. Detach yourself from what you want to be perceived as and get comfortable with who you really are. There will be people who not only accept you as is but will love you for all that you are.

Be Real

Most of us, serial killers and psychopaths excluded, are blessed with a conscious. That conscious is the director of our truths. The trick then becomes listening to your conscious and executing our own “realisms”. Being real means, saying no when you need to, saying yes because you want to and never jeopardizing your happiness for anyone else. Sounds brutal, but the reality of it all is, those who truly love you will never need you to do anything more than to be you. The only way you can attract those type of people into your life is if you’re real to you. Speak the truth, live the truth and appreciate the truth. When you speak, only utter things that hold truth, why lie and complicate things. Live the truth, don’t  try to be someone you’re not, you will lose your self. When people are honest with you, appreciate it, it takes a lot to summon the courage to be honest and they  obviously thought you were worthy of the truth.

Stay Real

Trials and tribulations, heartache and joy, ups and downs, occur in everyone’s life but remaining real will always keep you in the winners circle. If you never do something for the world do something for your world and stay real. Listen to your conscious and  follow your journey with honesty and integrity. You are worthy of the greatest things in life, why not the most noble of traits? In your “realisms” you will find your happiness, you owe it to yourself to be happy.

Celebrating the greatness, of the greats that surround us.

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Its often said that the people you surround yourself with are a reflection of who you are. Although I find that there may be truth to that notion, I think its way deeper than that. I feel that the ones who mean the most to you, hold a part of your soul.

Whether it’s in passing or if we actually get a legitimate moment to meet, we encounter hundreds of people a day. Very seldom do we meet individuals who ignite sparks within us. When that spark has been ignited know that the individual you just met, holds a part of your soul. Be it small or large, the connection is a huge indication that apart of you is within the other person and vise versa. In this day and age we rarely get the opportunity to revive and replenish our souls.So for me the easiest and most rewarding form of  revival and replenishment comes from appreciating and celebrating the greatness of the greats that surround me.

Years ago I met a friend in the most random of places, under the most random circumstances. In the initial moment of meeting, under the mad influence of liquor, I thought I had met the greatest person in the world. Soon to be sober, I realized, GOOD GOD I was so wrong. I had met the rudest, most arrogant and cocky individual ever. The charm faded so fast and it took alllll of me not to slap the stupid off this person’s face every time they opened their mouth.

Life being life, I had to endure this individual for the duration of the next few days and the amount of hostility between the two of us was so intense we couldn’t even be in each others presence for longer than 5 mins and again that was only if we were under the influence. Two bulls, head to head.

Through the miraculous ways of the world, and social media of course, common again lets be real. We stayed in touch. The 5 minutes of barely being able to stand each other turned into the five minutes of can’t go without each other. The hate and hostility over a period of time turned into love and respect. The beginning of the rawest, realest and most annoying ( ya some things didn’t change) friendship had begun. For years, every passing moment was a moment that was shared, and in every passing moment I learned so much about this person. I learned that aside from the horrible attitude problem, the lack of understanding and the unbelievable amount of selfishness this one person contains within them, there is an incredible soul. A soul that connected with mine and will forever remain connected to mine.

There is a spark of life in your eyes my dear friend that will never die, It’s lit with ambition, integrity and brilliance.  Your drive in life will take you far, your depth and perception will keep you from harms way and your  incredible heart will guide you to the life you have always dreamed of. I am so grateful for the brutal honesty and immense loyalty you bring to my life. Thank you for teaching me to be tougher, thank you for telling me when I need to slow down and showing me that sometimes its okay to fail as long as I get back up. I adore you, for who you really are because you’ve always kept it real with me and have never changed.  The world is yours for the taking, If there is anyone who can  move mountains and conquer their dreams it’s you!

On your birthday, remember that you are a blessing to so many and the world is a better place with you in it. Kinda, sometimes… k  I totally lied…. you’re a good person and a complete blessing to many, lets leave it at that.

Love holds no bounds when it’s real!

There are the few, actually, there are the very few, who deserve to be a part of your life fully and receive all of you through all circumstances. I have a few of those people in my life and you are one of the very few, you need to know I will do what I can to ensure that you know, I am grateful for your very existence, because through your  existence alone I am a greater person.

Love ya Chuck!

If You Must.. de-fakin-sensitize

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In speaking to a very near and dear friend of mine last night I came to an uhaa shiii.. moment. She had asked me to think back to this very date, last year. So I tried and re created, where I was and what I was doing. Then she asked me to tell her what I was worried about that day and what negative things were going on around me. I couldn’t, for the life of me, remember what I was stressing about a year ago. So needless to say the Uhhhaa shiii moment came soon after.

The things we worry about today, won’t be remembered soon after. So don’t worry!

So how do we continue to keep that thought in play, when as humans we are more emotional than logical?

De-fakin-sensitize.

dē -fak-en-ˈsensiˌtīz

Verb:

  1. Make less sensitive.
  2. Make (someone) less likely to feel shock or distress at scenes of cruelty, violence, or suffering by overexposure to such images.
  3. Doing the Fakin best you can to put your feelings/emotions in check

Easier said than done, I get it. But think about all the things we push ourselves to do on a regular basis, anything from healthier food choices to satanic gym routines and absurd work schedules. Surely we can push ourselves to de-fakin-sensitize.  After my conversation with the friend, I thought about it long and hard. How do I de-fakin-sensitize?

This is what came to mind.

1) When it comes to emotions rid yourself of the  idealist mentality. You can have dreams and visions, but don’t allow your emotions to take over your realitality. Idealism and matters of the heart do not match.

2) Take everything and everyone for face value. No one person or one thing will ever be more than what they are, or where they are in their life. No matter what you feel towards the person or situation you have to keep in mind that it is what it is, nothing you say and do can change the current standings. Time can, not you!

3) Make you, the most important player in your life. Sounds assholesque but … don’t doubt me just do it. Sometimes you have to be the asshole, you have to be concerned about you and how situations relate to you. You cannot and will not de-fakin-sensitize, if you are always thinking of other people. Its okay to be empathic and caring, to be anything but is inhuman. Making you the most important person in your own life will empower you to make choices that will benefit all people involved. It may not seem so initiality but in the long run putting you first will be of the greatest benefit to your life.

We all want things to go the way our hearts desire. But the things that our hearts desire may not coincide with our realities. Save yourself the headache/heartache and dē -fak-en-ˈsensiˌtīz.

Losing parts of what use to be a whole.

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I’ve always been the type to give full heartedly. I feel if your going to love, love with every ounce of heart and soul you have. My love specifically  means you get the full package, respect,loyalty,honesty and most importantly its genuine.

Every friend, matter of fact every person who has ever come into my life has received my heart on a golden platter. As my relationship grows with an individual one of two things will happen. The love grows stronger and I learn of more ways to make the growth evident or It weakens and I slowly begin to retract all that made the love whole.

Throughout the years I’ve learned a valuable lesson. Not every one deserves all of you. But being who I am I don’t know of another way to give or to love. So I’ve come up with my own method.

I give and take away. The relationship between myself and the other individual is a sole reflection of what they have or haven’t done.

I openly accept new friendships all the time and on the same token I end life long friendships just as rapidly. It’s not a feeling superiority or inconsideration that causes the friendships to end. Instead, it’s my method of taking away what I give based on the other persons do’s and don’ts.

I watch from day one; I watch how people react and reciprocate to the what they receive.

I know you’re thinking why would you do things and want something in return? Well I’m speaking loosely when I say reciprocation, but I’m a firm believer that every relationship should be 50/50. If i’m putting in and your not, take a big one way ticket to see ya.

I also enjoy watching peoples reactions, ungrateful people will always remain ungrateful. People who are ungrateful, begin to expect things, and if you are expecting things from me then I will become bitter and ill willed towards helping you. If something isn’t done with good intentions it takes too much from everyone involved, and it becomes a senseless cycle.

I then subtract from what I gave based on my observations.

If I show you utter loyalty and continuously receive disloyalty from you, better believe you have one less person on your side.

If I give you compassion and empathy and in return receive greed and apathy, there after, I could give a less fuck about your feelings.

If I am there for you through thick and thin, and you only show up to show face.. Ill watch you suffer and shrug my shoulders.

If I am honest and lovingly candid but see dishonesty and deceit, Ill hold you to the same level I would a stranger.

A combination of ups and downs occur within every relationship  Its obvious, no relationship is perfect.  The little things are easy to endure and move on from, but its the continual mannerisms of individuals that build their character. If their character doesn’t fit my story, I wont put up with it.

Matter of factually, If one day you wake up and the person you thought would always be there isn’t, don’t point the finger towards destiny or fate. Take a stand in the mirror, deal with your reflection.

The science of douchebags

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Making an ass of yourself is something most people can accomplish effortlessly. For the most part, when situations occur and you end up looking like an ass, it’s done accidentally. For a douche on the other hand it is second nature. Making an ass of themselves is habitual.

I have had many conversations in my life time describing people to others, unfortunately as I continue to age the most common descriptive word I find my self using is, douche bag.

I have thought long and hard about the science behind these, inhuman, mistakes that have minimal reason to exist. The conclusion I have come to is as follows;

There are two types of douchebags.

Type a) The douche who was born with this appalling defect.

Type b) The human who gradually turned into a douche.

Type a, is that same police officer who pulls you over and gives you a ticket for not wearing a seat belt. Or that Clerk at the store who makes you break a 20 dollar bill for a penny. In all of these situations the first thing any of us say is, ew that person was probably the biggest loser in high school, power tripping nobody. The reason we say it is because it is TRUE! Type A douche can’t help themselves, they were born with this, defect, that makes them feel entitled. And because it was never addressed at a young age, the douchiness continued to grow. Now as an adult in the free world they are allowed to run a muck, we excuse it because we say they don’t know any better.

Type B, the “normal” person who goes through life being lied to and eventually turns into a douche. Type b is a special breed, they have the same sense of entitlement that type A has and an explosive amount of that, my shit don’t stank attitude. Originally what could have been considered confidence turn into, who the fuck is you blues. Somewhere along the line type b met a very weak individual who felt that  in order to please type b they had to bullshit and kiss ass. Type b having that sense of entitlement ran with the idea and allowed that weakling to make up for all of their insecurities.  As time progressed type b became blind sighted to reality and they continued to mistreat the ” real” and “worthy” people in their life. Type b’s ego continued to grow and is now so out of control that no one gives enough fucks to help them.

The prognosis for type a is simple, nothings going to change. People will continue to accept you being a douche because you were born that way.

The prognosis for type b is also simple, some day someone will push you off your high horse, at that time not only will your ego burst but you will also become paralyzed.

A message to both types CHECK YOURSELF …

http://http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bueFTrwHFEs

 

Live,Learn,Let Go.

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We often underestimate the power of letting go. The only sure way to let go and move forward is to understand a simple cycle;
LIVE,LEARN,LET GO.

Live in the moment, yes easier said than done, but if you don’t try .. You’re the only dumbass who will suffer from it. Cherish everything about the now. Make moments that turn into memories. Be free, be spontaneous. Value the seconds you are given, before your seconds get taken away. When you feel your falling into the trap of yesterday’s news and tomorrow’s worries, stop yourself and say IM LIVING FOR THE MOMENT LIVING FOR TODAY. Dont say it out loud I’m not trying to promote crazy! You can however repeat it in your head as loud as you damn well please, until your back in the now. Just remember all the amazing memories you currently have were only possible because by some miracle act,you were living in that moment!!!

Learn through observation. You won’t gain depth on a situation until the entire experience is over (rellllax only one step left) When unforeseen circumstances occur watch the reaction of those around you. You’ll gain insight on how to handle things in the future, you’ll also learn more about the people you surround yourself with. You’re going to get mad and upset. You’re going to feel tired and frustrated. Your emotions will go up and crash down. But when the emotions subside put your brain to work. Reflect on what made you feel that way and realize how you can handle the situation different next time or even possibly avoid it all together. Your brain is the dopest part of your body! Not only does it hold all your power but it even has a filing cabinet for mental notes,take lots of them. All of life’s tests are open book. Use your notes!

Let it go!!!! We refuse to let go because we don’t know what’s going to take place next. Ill tell you… Same shit different chapter. If you live in the moments and indulge in every second and learn as much as you can within that duration of your life, letting go will be the easiest thing you will ever do. You will come to the realization that there is nothing left! So using your mental notes write your final exam and let it go.

For those who never thought the process through and are stuck in a situation where it’s hard to let go remember this.

You cant continue a journey with your shoes glued to the ground. Your heart only beats with your blood, your brain only feeds your soul.

Life Investments

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Life investments 101 with Elle:

If someone is interested in making you a part of their life they will make the time and put the effort in. And If they don’t, live and let live.  You will come across thousands of people in your life time, each of them a grain of sand in your hourglass. No individual grain of sand will make or break you. So do YOU and allow others to do DEM !

Very few people will ever be worth your time and energy. The only way to realize who those  people are is to allow time to do its thing and invest in your self! The world has a wicked sense of humor and a great method to sifting people out of your life. While life was working on the sifting, you were working on you. In theory because you invested time in bettering your self your going to attract better people towards you. People who will stay real and stay dedicated to the relationship they have with you.

Dreams do come true but the sandman isn’t going to knock on your door and deliver it to you. Dreams consist of life goals. To attain your life goals you have to; work on working the hardest your working ass can work. WERRKK! –PUT IN WORK AND EARN YOUR WORTH! Stay grounded stay focused and surround yourself with those who believe in you ( not those who believe in your dreams) there is a huge difference.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6vwNcNOTVzY- just a thought

Simply said, when you look good, you feel good, when you feel good, you do good! Simple things make the biggest impact on you and those around you. Don’t gym to be thin, don’t eat right to keep tight, do it so you feel good and exude confidence. Always carry yourself with immense self esteem and pride. YOU are the Greatest version of YOU! 

Avoid negative people put them in the tool box and leave them there. Make friends and connections with people who inspire to be better for themselves. For every conversation you have with them, your investing into a better you without even knowing it.

Ultimately when you look back on your life it is your life investments that will make up the core of your existence. So make that core strong, fierce and unbreakable.Invest in your tomorrow by building your foundations on integrity love and knowledge. 

Positive Perspective, get yo specks right

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Making the most of a less than perfect situation takes practice.

I remember the times where I could of straight knocked somebody upside the head for the smallest inconvenience to my life. Or the moments where I would play victim because it was the easiest thing to do. I added, matter of fact, I multiplied negativity to an already negative situation. Again because it was easy, anddd lets be real misery does loves company,company that at the time I thought I wanted to share. I became this negative troll that no one wanted to deal with anymore.

Quicker than I wanted, I realized the way you look at the world, is the way the world looks at you. And I am too cute to be associated with negative. Things had to change cause I knew life wasn’t going to get easier. 

We’re hit with trials and tribulations all the time. Just getting through them means NOTHING. Whereas what you learn from it means EVERYTHING. Only way you’re going to learn anything, in any situation is if you change how you look at it.

Nobody learns through negative and positivity isn’t a teacher for the weak.

Problems don’t exist for me because I chose to have it that way. Although situations occur that require me to work harder, or make a quicker decision than usual. A “problem” should be looked at as an unforeseen circumstance that has to be dealt with sooner than you like. 

I know when reading things I often say, kkkkk and  howw am I supposed to get on track here? So allow me to reintroduce simplicity…

1) When unforeseen circumstances occur, remember where you are and how you’re living in comparison to 70 percent of the world. If some little man from Bangladesh can survive the depths of poverty that they endure, you can chill the fuck with crying over your first world problems. And yes given all of our resources, and opportunities even your most severe “problems” are first world.

2) If you’re still breathing you are going to be alright.. This unforeseen circumstance can not and will not kill you. Your hearts been broken but you’re still here, you’ve lost family and you’re still here, People have used and abused your ass BUT YOU ARE STILL HERE. So remind your self of all the things that you have been through up until this very day and then look at your self and say shit I’m still here.

3) Always remind your self of  one thing, The only power you have is over you, and if you choose to look at the “bright side” of the unforeseen circumstances, you win. AND NOBODY WANTS TO BE A LOSER…

real talk wrap up—> People use to cry over spilled milk, then someone thought of bounty.. Bounty is living bountiful and the people who cried, no one cares :)